Reflection & Patterns

How to Train Your Brain Like you Would Teach a Child

A few years ago I worked for Children’s Services as a Family Support Worker. I taught boundary-setting skills, educated parents and schools on brain development, and essentially used all the brain-training hacks I’d learned in my degrees. I didn’t have children at the time, but I was paid to support parents with… parenting. Let’s say I met quite a bit of resistance, but I did my research and I knew my ‘stuff.’ My colleagues, with Read more…

Pause Overthinking with Colour
Emotions & Resilience

Pause Overthinking in Under a Minute

We all get overwhelmed, panicked, exhausted, yet breaking free of that state sometimes feels impossible. In that state, how many of us know how to gain some mental space? Many years ago, I read a post by Havi Brooks about some ways she manages being triggered. This is my version of her “name everything you see” exercise explained in that post. The Five-Things Tool to Pause Overthinking Look around you; wherever you are right now. Can Read more…

Empowerment & Seeking

12 Quick and Simple Acts of Self-Care for 2018

This is part manifesto, part skills-training and part to-do list for feeling good and staying mentally well in 2018. This is not an exhaustive list, but it’s a starting point, and I’ve tried to include a few “less often shared” ideas for self-care. There’s also a free 18-page workbook available at the end of the post covering each step in more detail, with space to write your own answers in.  I know all of these things, Read more…

Emotions & Resilience

No Reason: The Problem With Asking ‘Why?’

I was browsing some social media groups for business owners this week, when I saw a comment asking how people find their own sense of power when they’re struggling. This is something I feel I can offer support with, so I clicked the comments, and saw two responses essentially stating: “Ask yourself why. Get the root of the problem to solve it.” The Core Reason Now, if you know what has triggered, brought up or Read more…

Empowerment & Seeking

Dealing with Criticisms: The New Year’s Resolution

I used to make New Year’s Resolutions. Then I used to spend December reflecting and consolidating the year gone, ready to plan “thorough goals” for the new year. Then I stepped back, and chose a “Word for the Year” instead. Finally, I used a guiding word to ‘theme’ my goals for the year, broken into sections. But equally, I see all this “Forget the new year, it’s meaningless.” So I’m beginning this post with a Read more…

Emotions & Resilience

On Soothing the Fear of Imposter Syndrome

Psst! At the end of this post is a link to my free worksheets on managing those imposter syndrome fears, so you can make progress on your personal quest. As human beings, we worry. Our minds focus on the problems we might be faced with, and try desperately to do fix problems before they arise. We plan for conflict, or confusion. We question what we’re doing, and if it’s okay to be doing it. Especially when Read more…

Reflection & Patterns

Conquer Self-Development with the Right Practice For You

When it comes to self-development advice, we’re bombarded. Even I have a bundle of worksheets to help people find the tools which actually work for them.  One thread comments on the importance of setting actionable goals. Another strand emphasises the role of visualisation and acting ‘as if.’ A third route professes the strength behind gratitude and just letting things naturally form in their own way: finding the opportunities and just saying Yes. In reality, this Read more…

Happiness in nature: log pile
Empowerment & Seeking

Happiness: The Truth about Self-help Tools

I began studying the psychology of my own experiences in 2004 with a book on Psycholinguistics and one on Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Since then, I’ve studied a bunch of qualifications, and have worked in social care, education, mental health and youth work fields. Yet, there are some ‘lessons’ you don’t fully comprehend until you’ve lived them. A few years ago, Christine Kane wrote an article about smiling after challenge, and a particular comment she made really Read more…

Reflection & Patterns

More Reflection: A Magic Key to Self-Improvement

There’s so much pressure in the modern day to be continually improving: to attain ‘success.’ And to feel fulfilment at every moment. Defining Self-Improvement As a millennial [defined very broadly as being born between 1980 and 2000], we’re expected to manage everything. From work, play, and having the perfect instagram feeds to being polite, never feel depressed, support a family, and de-clutter our lives all the time. And yet, the price of food compared to Read more…