I’ve always been that person who strives to understand. It’s a curiosity that I never questioned, it was so innate in my soul. I craved insights and understanding about myself.

We Curious Souls Are Not Alone

I’ve seen this curious nature labelled under various categories. INFJs from the Myers Briggs Personality Test. Virgos in star signs. Spiritual people. People who practise mindfulness. Minimalists. Lifelong learners. Nerds. Geeks.

It doesn’t matter what term you identify with. If you have an inner pull to grow, to learn, to improve… You’re in the right place.

Most of us have phases of this self-knowledge drive which ebb and flow.

Sometimes We Feel Exhausted

No matter how motivated we are to know ourselves and reach our true potential. we all have times when we’re too exhausted.

You may fall into the habit of watching television instead of reading. Eating fast food instead of exercising. Buying things you don’t need in the sales instead of de-cluttering.

Knowing that habit-A makes us feel better in the long-term isn’t always enough to guide us towards that choice. Especially looking at modern habit-formation research and advice around being successful… It often sounds So Damn Difficult.

It sounds like Such Hard Work to change our life.
But it doesn’t need to feel so difficult.

We can work with the biology of our body and mind, rather than fighting against it. This way, we can make the changes we deeply desire within, without having to fight a battle every hour of the day. And that frees up so much mental energy.


Ready to know thyself? Let’s do this.

1. Your brain is the command centre for your body, your perception and your emotions.

But we aren’t taught how to reprogram this control centre. Whether you want to learn a new skill, stop smoking, build up arm muscles or manage depression, your brain is required to facilitate this change.

What does this mean for you?

Anything you do or think could be influencing the wiring of your brain. And how do we influence the brain? Through our Action and Thoughts.

2. Language is how we perceive everything.

It’s can feel a little ‘woo’ but science backs this idea up so, I like to consider it. How you phrase things actually impacts the neuro-chemicals and connections between different brain areas. So be careful when using overly dramatic words. Without going into all of the neuroscience, the words we use even in our self-talk can shape the wiring of our brain and the chemicals moving between physical brain areas. Not to mention, how words we hear can change how we feel and what we do next.

What does this mean for you?

Most of us think in language. When thoughts enter our mind, they are formed of words we know, which trigger feelings and physical sensations. This, in itself, is kind of an “action” even if it’s done without conscious movement. Therefore, language is a huge aspect of how we redesign our brain. So become aware of the language you use; both out loud in internally.

3. What we do regularly grows.

Habit formation, when we over-simplify it is based on repetition encouraging growth and increased efficiency. The more often we tread the path from A to B, the flatter the earth becomes, the easier it is to see the path where grass has been trodden down.The same is true of our brain’s plasticity, or how it improves it’s wiring. And this is how habits even exist. When we move our arms one specific way, we strengthen the pathways of our brain relating to that movement and the parts of the brain which impact our body, the different muscles, undertaken the space we move in, and the memories patterns of what that joint can do.

What does this mean for you?

Repetition is key in biology. We do something enough that we don’t need to think, our body knows how to move the leg here and the eyes automatically check the mirror. We have become the very essence of that thing we may have spent months practising.

What we do, we become. So pay attention to what you do. What you say. What you think. And ask yourself if you wish to stay or become more like that particular aspect.

4. The argument of nature versus nurture is both simpler and made more complex by the discovery of epigenetics.

This is not a new concept any more, but it is one still not openly known about by the general public. The basic idea is that our genes are sometimes changed by our environment, and this altered gene can then be passed down as genetics for offspring.

What does this mean for you?

The main takeaway here is that nothing is set in stone.

Even with genetics predisposing us to certain traits, we are learning about how experiences and environment can “switch on” or “switch off” certain genes. Again, this is a reminder to be aware of when we have those “well, I can’t change anything” thoughts. If something seems to be part of “who you are” and you want to change it, look to changing your environment.


5. We all have a natural inner compass guiding us: curiosity.

Some people call it intuition. Others fate. Others can it consciousness. It’s that ‘reason for being’ and in Japan, it’s called igikai. Humans are set aside from other animals by our consciousness, and one consistent belief is that we strive to fulfil a Life’s Purpose of some kind. From Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to the evolutionary drive to grow, the desire to make fire, to try this new item as a weapon, to explore the possibilities of steam, of electronics.

What does this mean for you?

In an evolutionary level, we are designed to solve problems and feel valued via some kind of purpose. We, as a species, are instinctively seeking, pushing against this sense of possibility, of potential, of hope that things can change.

Yet, we are not taught how to read this inner compass. So what does this mean for you? Find a way to begin following your inner pull. 

Journal. Meditate. Exercise. Visualise. Breathe. Question. Study. Reflect. Plan.

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