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Emotions & Resilience

How To Manage Difficult Emotions :: Recognition

Around ten years ago, I was part of a Buddhist meditation class. After a particularly stressful week, in which I’d not been allocated a supervisor for a project, I came into the class in a pretty low mood. When I checked in, my teacher’s first question was “How does that feel?” I feel betrayed, hurt and angry. “Okay. Why?” Because that means all three of my choices were given the option, and turned me down. Read more…

Emotions & Resilience

The Truth Behind Emotions: Important Conversations with Fear

Fear. We all experience it. But we often don’t recognise it for what it is. Many coaches talk about the unhelpful responses in different ways: they may be defined as “limiting beliefs”, “unhelpful automatic thoughts”, the “gremlins”, the “inner critic”, your “mean-girl voice” or even “monsters.” However, at the end of the day, we all experience this voice; and it’s often hard to know how to handle it. I call mine Kitten. What The Voice Does Read more…

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Emotions & Resilience

Why Creativity Matters, and How To Cultivate It

Creative thinking is a tricky thing to define. Some call it a skill; one that you either have or you don’t. Some say it requires inspiration, while others say it can be cultivated and “learnt”. When I looked at creativity as a student, Einstein was viewed as a creative scientist, Leonardo da Vinci was seen to be a creative artist and composers like Mozart had their own version of creativity. However, the definition is still Read more…

Empowerment & Seeking

Meditation as a Genuine Path to Improved Potential

I used to meditate every day. At some point between moving in with my husband and earlier this year, the habit had just… faded. Our ‘life’ is really a cumulation of the daily choices we make. For me, meditation is a space for my mind to breathe. I don’t notice much when I practise, but I do notice the lack of clarity and patience when I don’t. I’ve never done more than about 5-minutes a Read more…

Empowerment & Seeking

How To Map Out Small, Daily Steps To Successful Change

We dream of things being different, and it’s frustrating to feel so far away from that possible future. When our daily steps don’t match our values. Anything which blocks our sense of progress towards our best self, feels stressful and overwhelming. Be that a known obstacle to a goal, or not knowing how exactly to reach a life where we are more fulfilled. We all have changes we want to make, and there are hundreds, if Read more…

Reflection & Patterns

Three Steps to Reach Effective Creative Energy

Being a creative soul can hold specific challenges. The skills used to keep creativity going mean we tend to analyse things, and notice patterns differently. Although this gives us part of our power, in creative endeavours, it can also mean that we get blocked in quite specific ways. Whether you write stories, paint landscapes, write musical scores or choreograph dance moves; we all get blocked. Commonly referred to as ‘writer’s block’, I know that all Read more…

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Empowerment & Seeking

Re-framing: How Perception Is More than Just Lying to Yourself

On Friday afternoon, following a particularly stressful day working for a mental health project, I found myself burning out. I wasn’t angry, nor particularly sad, but I felt under pressure and desperate to get home: emotionally exhausted. About 3 minutes from home, at a roundabout where people often go despite the traffic coming their way, a car pulled out in front of me. I had to break suddenly, my fight-or-flight system throwing adrenaline around my body so I could Read more…

Reflection & Patterns

The Myth of Fresh Starts: How to Stay ‘On Track’

There is a culture of wanting ‘fresh starts’, usually focusing on making new choices. Most of us have experienced ourselves, or someone we know saying “oh, well I’ll start again tomorrow / next week / in the New Year” when that person has made a choice that does not fit in line with their overall goal. People have a few ways of describing behaviour, but today I want to think about ‘falling off the wagon.’ Firstly, we Read more…

Empowerment & Seeking

How To Craft Goals Primed for Success

You’ve tried to make a change, but it’s hard to reach your goal and make it stick. Habits are difficult to control, and those New Year’s Resolutions never last… You are not alone. Humans are habitual creatures, and making a change can feel like a lot of work. But there are some strategies you can use to maximise your chance of making the change, and really feel accomplished as you progress towards your goal. This Read more…

Reflection & Patterns

Motivation to Change: Willpower and Asking Yourself Why

As a general rule, humans like things they are comfortable with. We like certainty, which is a common reason we experience worries: the unknown can be scary! Even if we know what is going to change, or have a change we wish to make, there is a massive mental block between wanting things to improve, and actually making that leap into the unknown of changing it. Motivation depends on energy, on how we perceive things improving Read more…