Conquer Self-Development with the Right Practice For You

When it comes to self-development advice, we’re bombarded. Even I have a bundle of worksheets to help people find the tools which actually work for them.  Picking Your Tools One thread comments on the importance of setting actionable goals. Another strand emphasises the role of visualisation and acting ‘as if.’ A third route professes the strength behind gratitude and just letting things naturally form in their own way: finding the opportunities and just saying Yes. Read more…

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Happiness: The Truth about Self-help Tools

I began studying the psychology of my own experiences in 2004 with a book on Psycholinguistics and one on Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Since then, I’ve studied a bunch of qualifications, and have worked in social care, education, mental health and youth work fields. Yet, there are some ‘lessons’ you don’t fully comprehend until you’ve lived them. Mind-Training A few years ago, Christine Kane wrote an article about smiling after challenge, and a particular comment she made Read more…

More Reflection: A Magic Key to Self-Improvement

There’s so much pressure in the modern day to be continually improving: to attain ‘success.’ And to feel fulfilment at every moment. Defining Self-Improvement As a millennial [defined very broadly as being born between 1980 and 2000], we’re expected to manage everything. From working full-time and having the perfect instagram feed to never feeling depressed, supporting a family, and de-cluttering our lives all the time. And yet, the price of food compared to our wages Read more…

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How To Manage Difficult Emotions :: Recognition

The Realisation Around ten years ago, I was part of a Buddhist meditation class. After a particularly stressful week, in which I’d not been allocated a supervisor for a project, I came into the class in a pretty low mood. When I checked in, my teacher’s first question was “How does that feel?” I feel betrayed, hurt and angry. “Okay. Why?” Because that means all three of my choices were given the option, and turned Read more…

The Truth Behind Emotions: Important Conversations with Fear

Fear. We all experience it. But we often don’t recognise it for what it is. Introducing Your Voice Many coaches talk about the unhelpful responses in different ways: they may be defined as “limiting beliefs”, “unhelpful automatic thoughts”, the “gremlins”, the “inner critic”, your “mean-girl voice” or even “monsters.” However, at the end of the day, we all experience this voice; and it’s often hard to know how to handle it. I call mine Kitten. What Read more…

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Why Creativity Matters, and How To Cultivate It

Creative thinking is a tricky thing to define. Some call it a skill; one that you either have or you don’t. Some say it requires inspiration, while others say it can be cultivated and “learnt”. Defining Creativity When I looked at creativity as a student, Einstein was viewed as a creative scientist, Leonardo da Vinci was seen to be a creative artist and composers like Mozart had their own version of creativity. However, the definition Read more…

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Meditation as a Genuine Path to Improved Potential

I used to meditate every day. At some point between moving in with my husband and earlier this year, the habit had just… faded. Our ‘life’ is really a cumulation of the daily choices we make. For me, meditation is a space for my mind to breathe. I don’t notice much when I practise, but I do notice the lack of clarity and patience when I don’t. I’ve never done more than about 5-minutes a Read more…

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How To Map Out Small, Daily Steps To Successful Change

We dream of things being different, and it’s frustrating to feel so far away from that possible future. When our daily steps don’t match our values. Anything which blocks our sense of progress towards our best self, feels stressful and overwhelming. Be that a known obstacle to a goal, or not knowing how exactly to reach a life where we are more fulfilled. We all have changes we want to make, and there are hundreds, if Read more…

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Three Steps to Reach Effective Creative Energy

Being a creative soul can hold specific challenges. The skills used to keep creativity going mean we tend to analyse things, and notice patterns differently. Although this gives us part of our power, in creative endeavours, it can also mean that we get blocked in quite specific ways. Whether you write stories, paint landscapes, write musical scores or choreograph dance moves; we all get blocked. Commonly referred to as ‘writer’s block’, I know that all Read more…

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Re-framing: How Perception Is More than Just Lying to Yourself

On Friday afternoon, following a particularly stressful day working for a mental health project, I found myself burning out. I wasn’t angry, nor particularly sad, but I felt under pressure and desperate to get home: emotionally exhausted. About 3 minutes from home, at a roundabout where people often go despite the traffic coming their way, a car pulled out in front of me. I had to break suddenly, my fight-or-flight system throwing adrenaline around my body so I could Read more…