We’ve all been there: Stuck, lost and no longer able to trust our own decisions.
You feel completely exhausted, uncertain what to do to get out of this slump. You’ve bought the self-help books but are too exhausted to read them.
How can you make the right choice? You have ideas, but what do you know?
It’s not unusual to lose that sense of trust in yourself.
But that’s a skill we need to get back.
Enter Your Secret Weapon
1. Gift yourself with some kind of space to express yourself.
For some, this is a pen and paper. For others, a blank notepad document on their computer or phone. For you, this may be a voice recorder on your tablet.
I don’t care what it looks like, as long as you can express yourself in a space where you can then review the notes or image after. Once you’ve made that space, move on to step 2…
2. Give yourself ten minutes.
If you can’t prioritise ten minutes, you need it more than you realise.
Find it. Wake up later, do it while you’re eating lunch. Lock yourself in the bathroom if you have to. Create the space to actually BREATHE.
I’m serious. Nothing will change if you cannot craft ten minutes to yourself. Pay your best friend to babysit and your neighbour to watch the dogs.
3. Answer the following prompts:
“How does my body feel right now?”
“What’s happening for me at this moment?”
“What would I choose?”
Make notes in your chosen format. At this point, don’t censor yourselves. Let every answer flow, however weird, stunted, forced or strange. We’ll be sorting it later, but for now, don’t pause. Through saying the odd things only then do the beautiful gems of clarity sneak through.
4. Be aware it may feel strange.
It may feel strange if you’re not used to journalling. You may instantly read this and think “Eh, that won’t work. It won’t be worth my time.”
Give it a go.
It’s a technique for your toolkit. After doing this regularly, I found a lot of insights connecting with my intuition.
Trust and Intuition
Intuition is a strange thing, and for those of us practical and scientific types it’s difficult to know how much faith to have in those nudges.
But biologically, we have an ‘animal brain’ and instincts like the ‘fight or flight reflex’ that knows things. Especially those filtered out, ignored or not understood in our modern world.
Journalling is one of the simplest way to reconnect with those instincts. In terms of the Neuroscience aspect, Professor Steve Peters talks about ‘exercising your chimp‘ which is that we can’t move on until we’ve expressed and released those emotions.
Trust the Process
I’m pretty new to journalling; only in the last 3-4 years have I really given it a chance. As for regular journalling, I began weekly ‘check-ins’ under 6 months ago.
But I’d say having a brain-dump once a week for 3-4 weeks, the little sparks of glitter sparkled. So we’re not talking a LOT of energy, maybe 30-40 minutes a month.
These days, I journal only when I feel overwhelmed or frustrated, maybe 2-3 times a month, sometimes just 3-4 minutes per journalling ‘slot’ keeps me sane the way some people swear by meditation.
If you’ve tried meditation and struggled, try journalling as your ‘meditative exercise’ instead.
Our sense of self-trust will only grow if we give it a chance to bloom.